The Color of Love…Round two…A repost with an Introduction


The 45th President will be inaugurated this week. Regardless of your political leanings, it’s an historic event. It represents the true Republic for which we live in. The ability to choose freely and willingly, our leader. Albeit, many do not like the outcome of this year’s election. And I am not going to engage in political discourse here, I promise you that! However, the climate of hate is running amuck…perhaps more than I remember in my lifetime. So that said, I have to re-establish my loathing for racial hatred and re-post one of my favorite blog posts since beginning this blogging adventure.  I will tell you that since the original post, I have dated here and there, none of which are the Average White Guy.  All men of color.  Just the way the cookie crumbled. As a result of this, I have had some people make the following comments to me…

Are you only interested in black men now? How come you haven’t dated any white guys? Are you deciding not to? Oh, your dating someone new…are they black? Aren’t you attracted to white men anymore?

I love all of my friends, and I don’t believe any of them are racially discriminate other than they choose to date within their race. And that is more akin to the lack of attraction they have for men of color, not because they are men of color. That said, the questioning does bother me. Why does this matter?! In fact once someone said I should “branch out.” Well, hello! I’m the one branching out, don’tcha think?! I don’t see anyone else “branching out”, lol!  My New York Inner Child says, “I don’t give a flying fuck! Period.

In all disclosure, literally 7 out of 10 men that I receive interest in via on-line dating happen to be ethnic men. WHY? I don’t know?! Some would say because I’ve got curves..I have been told “Girl, You are Phat!” And I actually had an entire discussion with this gentleman because I was at first offended! (By the way, this discussion happened at a great New Years Eve Party that a friend and I attended…of which were were probably 1 of 10 token white women out of a crowd of 500.  We were in hog heaven, just saying!) But he explained what your local Urban Dictionary would say…It was a compliment, lol!  Just yesterday this man messaged me and said, “You’re thick as gumbo!” I literally lol’d. Then texted my friend to ask what the heck that meant! Apparently, it’s a good thing from his perspective. Makes me giggle. My point is, if someone is interested in me, if I find them attractive, like what they say, meet them, …we might date…As simple as that…The color of their skin or their ethnic origin is not a deciding factor for me. So thanks for reading my mini-rant about a very important subject in my life. So here goes…my repost! Please comment within the blog itself and if you haven’t subscribed, I would love your subscription!


“So have your tastes changed since you have been single? I’m talking about really, really changed?!

Good golly mine sure have. Basically the universe is the limit, lol. What I mean by that is I am truly open to dating men from different ethnicities. The big taboo…inter-racial dating…OOOHHH, No She Didn’t! fact the first guy out of the gates was African-American. I didn’t even think twice.  He was HOT! Steaming, smoking, like OMG.  Not to mention the dance moves were spot on! Don’t mean to stereotype, but in his case he could bust-a-move!  I’m quite the dancer myself and finding a man that loves to dance isn’t easy! I already have my Disco Party Planned for my 50th Birthday this year…Costumes are required for entry!

This past week I got a match on Bumble. That’s a whole new world in and of itself…I was so excited…We both swiped right…BOOM! So we message. We were sharing about the hits we get…I said I tend to get the 26 year old looking for the Cougar or the 60 (looks like 80) year old guy. He responds how the black women hit him up… and said “Ewe”.  Here’s a snippet of our conversation:

‘Me: I have dated inter-racially since being divorced. I really don’t care. It’s the person not their skin color.

Him: Have you been intimate with a black man?

Me: I’m not answering that…Why, would that be a deal breaker for you?

Him: Yes, absolutely.

Me: Why does it matter what color their skin is? I wasn’t raised that way. The person’s character is what matters.

Him: Well I’m a pure-bread southern boy and I’d never do that.

Me: Then we part ways. Good luck.’ I felt like say something crude but I refrained!!!

WTF? I was dumbfounded. I guess I wasn’t prepared for that. Made me sick to my stomach. It should make us all nauseous. Yes ladies, this is the crap we go through with dating…can I get an AMEN?!

It’s not so much that I don’t like Caucasian men, I was married to one for 20 years and I only dated white guys my entire life leading up to my marriage.  But now I just don’t give a damn! Does it really matter? Seriously? To each his own. I actually want someone to treat me well, make me a priority, and maybe even love as much as I do…Man I have a huge heart…which can be a stupid huge heart sometimes.  I will continue along though! You gotta kiss a lot of frogs!”

Be Well and Be Blessed!



  1. Jennifer Wolpert | 18th Jan 17

    AMEN!!!!! Find someone who adores you no matter what the color of his skin is!!!

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